I see a lot of memes and conversing about letting people go who aren’t elevating. When I think of elevation I don’t necessarily mean material things; more so elevating on a spiritual level: your mindset. I’m not saying everyone around you needs to think like you or even share your spiritual practice. I think it’s healthy to have people around you who don’t think like you and will challenge you. I’m referring to the folks who aren’t aware of self and have yet to gain the desire to expand their own self-awareness. These are folks who are quick to act a fool and turn around and say, “That’s just me, that’s just how I am”. It’s a pretty easy way of just brushing off what ever offensive behavior has been displayed. I am personally guilty of this. I use to do this all the time. My temper was terrible. I would let things go on and on and fester. This festering would turn into resentment that would later turn into an eruption. I attributed it to the Leo in me. After all, I am a Fire sign. That’s just how Leos are right? WRONG!!!! We all have our ways, that’s a part of being human. Accessing our own “ways” leads to growth. I wanted to be able to have disagreements with people and fully express myself in a peaceful loving way. I wanted to effectively explain why I was hurt rather than coming across so angry. I also had to let go of wanting to be right or win the argument. I had to learn how to express myself and then let it go and be at peace. Being at peace is the hardest thing at times because it’s easy to fall into, I should of said this or said that. I still struggle with this.
The best thing I could’ve done to improve the relationships around me is self work. I believe everything we go through are lessons to be learnt. You either learn or you continue to repeat the lesson until you learn from it. My temper played out in so many relationships around me, I needed to effectively communicate with others. No attacking, just conversations. Yes conversations can still get heated when we are affected by each others actions, but staying grounded and wanting to resolve the issue rather than desiring to win is what I am aiming for. There are also times when there is no resolution and unfortunately relationships breakup. Maybe for a while sometimes for ever. I gauge my relationships on various things. One thing that is very important to me is how the relationship is showing up in my life. Does this relationship need a little nourishment or is it so far gone that I can’t do anything with it. I will admit I am stingy with my energy because I know I am responsible for myself and the way that I show up in this world. Growth also looks different for all of us. It’s not about who is good or bad. It’s not for me to judge but instead to realize we may just be in two different places. Is this relationship helping to fill up my tank or is it depleting all my gas. There is power in surrendering and letting go. While society would have you view surrendering as defeat; there actually is a lot of empowerment with surrendering, letting go and being completely at peace with your decision. You have to honor who you are. Take a moment of gratitude, assess what you learnt and wish them the best. You’ll be surprised how surrendering to the Universe will open doors for you. Happy Saturday and have a most productive week.
Now on to the outfit DEETs. I bought this fabric from Mood 7 seven years ago in New York. Its 100% silk and the first pair of pants I made. I remember being so intimidated of sewing pants and now I feel so silly because I LOVE making pants! This fabric was perfect for these flowy wide leg trousers. I was so pleased with them but I loss weight and had to take the zipper out, take them in and replace the waist band. I had a love hate relationship with the fabric because silk is very delicate. I also made a coordinating off the shoulder crop top. I learned a lot while sewing this combo. Even cutting the pattern was challenging. I later found out I should use tissue paper while cutting :(. The white bell sleeve crop top also looks great! This was the perfect addition to my summer wardrobe. It has a functional zipper in the back which is a nice touch to a classic top. I found it at binkandbougie. This is one of my favorite stores where I can also get a quick fix at an affordable price. I hope you love my creation as much as I do. Peace!